Sunday, April 17, 2016

How to survive your freshman year: Advice from a fifth year senior.


            What were you in high school? Perhaps you were valedictorian, class president, or even class clown. Were you voted “Most likely to succeed”? Were you voted for anything at all? Maybe you were drum major in the band, or dance team captain, like me. Whatever your stereotypical title was, it doesn’t really matter what you did in high school once you transition into college. Just because you were, or weren’t, successful in high school doesn’t mean that you will be the same way in college.
            Once you get into college you get your first taste of real freedom. No more curfews or, if your parents were like mine, no more designated study time. You’re finally free. However, what some college freshman don’t realize is that the decisions and choices that you make during your freshman year will have a lasting effect on the rest of your college experience. When I hear people talk about how college is all about freedom, I hear the words of my high school math teacher echo in my head. “With great freedom, comes great responsibility”.
The first week of your freshman experience is one of the most exciting, nerve racking, and important weeks of your life. College can be fun, some people even say it is the best four years, or in my case five years, of your life. Just remember that you are at college to get a degree, not party. However, on a more serious note, I have compiled a list of what I consider to be the best tips on how to survive your freshman year.
Get to know the people you live with.
These people are the ones who are going to help you through a lot of tough situations. Consider them your new family. Your roommate will be someone who you will always remember, even if you don’t get along. These people are going through the same thing you are. It is more than likely their first time away from home too. Your roommate, or roommates, will become some of your first friends that you have at college. Take time to get to know them, and allow them to get to know you. Having game nights with your roommates, or whoever else wants to join in, is a great way to have fun and get to know one another.
Be organized!
If you are anything like me, then you weren’t the best at time management in high school. In college, you make your own schedule. This is a blessing and a curse. Although you now have the freedom to make your own schedule, you might forget about certain assignments or due dates because you want to focus on other things. Being organized helps with that. Figure out what kind of schedule works out best for you. Are you a morning person, or do you function better later in the day? Being on a schedule will help you figure out what time you can devote to studying, as well as how much time you have for other activities. I suggest getting a planner and utilizing it to make sure you keep up with all of your assignments, and whatever else you might need it for.
Go to class!
You would think that this wouldn’t have to be said. It’s kind of obvious that you should go to class. Even if some teachers don’t take role doesn’t mean that you don’t have to go. Just because you can skip, doesn’t mean you should. Look at it this way, you, or someone else, is paying for you to go to that class. No one likes to waste money, especially the amount of money that each class cost. So, make sure you’re getting your moneys worth. Every time you skip a class remember this, if you don’t pass this class now, you will have to take it again in order to graduate.


Get to know your teachers, especially your academic advisor!
The professors are there to teach you, obviously, but they are also there to help guide you. All of the professors at your college care about you and they want you to succeed in their class. By asking questions and and participating in class discussions it will show them that you care about your grade. If there is any professor that you need to get to know it is your academic advisor. He or she is the main professor that is there to help you throughout your college experience. They are there to help you select your classes and advise you on what major might fit you best. Consider them your personal cheerleader.
Don’t rush into a major!
Your freshman year is about experiences and learning who you are as a person. Don’t be so quick to declare a major. During your first semester, take some entry level classes into different departments. See which ones you like best and which ones might not work out for you. For your first year, or at least your first semester, just worry about your general studies and get a feel for what you want to spend the next four years learning about. If it is the same thing that you initially wanted, great, but there is nothing wrong with changing your major one, or two times.
Get involved on campus!
This is one of the easiest thing to do during your freshman year. No matter what college you go to, there are so many different organizations on campus that you can join. If you were in band in high school, join the band in college. If you are interested in politics, then maybe your colleges Student Government Organization is something you might want to join. If you want to form a life long bond through an organization, then maybe rushing, or pledging, a Greek organization is something you might be interested in. No matter what interest you, there is an organization for you. The most important part about joining an organization is getting to know more people that share similar interest and will be positive influences.
Party responsibly!
Like I have said before, college is supposed to be fun but remember what you are there to do. Although there may be a party every day of the week, don’t fall into the trap of staying out all night, every night. Don’t give into peer pressure about going to a party on Thursday night when you know you have a test the next morning. There will always be another party. So, make sure you keep your focus on your studies and not on when the next frat party is.
These are just a few tips that I wish someone told me when I was an incoming freshman. Had I have followed these tips, I would be a lot better off in my senior year. However, I, like a lot of other students, fell into the trap of not realizing the amount of responsibility, maturity, and self-discipline it takes to make it through college. There are so many other tips and advice that I could give you on how to survive your freshman year, but there are something’s that you will just have to experience on your own. No matter what I, or anyone else for that matter, says you will do what you want. Just remember, “With great freedom, comes great responsibility”.


To the man who I never thought I would meet,

To the man who I never thought I would meet,

         We met in the most unlikely of places. Our story began in the most unlikely of ways. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was waiting on you to come into my life. You’re the man I thought I would never meet. You came into my life right when I was ready to give up on the idea of falling in love. You saved me in ways I didn’t know that I needed to be saved.
         I knew the moment you kissed me that my life was about to change. However, what I didn’t know, was just how lucky I was to have you in my life. Now, I sit here in a moment of complete clarity and realize that I was destined to meet you that night. I am truly blessed to have met you, and I just wanted to take time to tell you as to why I feel this way.

Your immense love for your family is astounding. Your commitment to your family was not only refreshing to find in a man, but was also incredibly attractive. The way you light up when you talk about your son is breathtaking. I've noticed just how much you love not only your son, but your entire family. I could tell how proud you are to be a father and how you would do anything for your son. This was the first time I realized that you were different from any other man that I had ever met.

Your enticing personality can make anyone fall for you. The night we met we talked and laughed for hours. Even though we were with friends, the only person I saw or heard was you. I got to know so much about you and you made me feel comfortable to tell you things about me. Opening up to someone who is a complete stranger is not something I make a habit of doing. Yet, some how you made me feel like I had known you my whole life. As the months went by we spent every day getting to know each other more and more. The more I learned, the more I wanted to know. The more we talked, the more I found myself laughing like I used to. I found myself happier than I had been in a very long time and I have you to thank for that. 
        
The way you make me feel when you wrap your arms around me. From the first night we spent together to the last hug you gave me, I have always felt something. I didn’t realize till now what that feeling was. It was, is, the feeling of completion. The way that my body fits perfectly beside yours, and the way you hold me so tight when we say good-bye, its like my body was made to fit with yours. You not only make me feel safe, but you make me feel as if nothing else in the world matters. You make me feel at home, even when we’re hundreds of miles away from our home.

The way you look at me. We have spent the majority of our time together talking over FaceTime; and every now and then you think I’m not looking at the screen or checking my phone and I see the way you look at me. Words can not express how I feel when I catch those moments. My favorite part of spending time with you in person is waking up and seeing you smile back at me. One look from you can melt away any stress, or heart ache that I may feel.

Your incredible work ethic. I have honestly never met someone that works as hard as you do. As I type this you have four jobs. Four. I am amazed by how hard you work in order to provide for your son and your self. Although I worry about you working to hard and not taking care of yourself sometimes, I know that you will do whatever it takes to give your son the best life you can. It is because of that, that I want to help you in anyway that I can.

You make me feel undeniably beautiful. I have had past relationships with great guys. But now that I have met you, I know why it didn’t work out with them. They never made me feel the way you do. They would tell me that I was beautiful and it made me feel good to hear them say that. However, I never felt beautiful, till you said it. When you said that I was beautiful I not only believed you, but I FELT beautiful.

There are not enough words in the English language that I could use to describe how you make me feel. But if I had to only pick one, it would be Blessed. I am not a religious person, nor do I put much stock in destiny or fate, but since I met you I have had this feeling that we were meant to meet. We were meant to find each other. I don’t think that there is a better way to describe our story other than destined. How else do describe me getting job offers in your hometown?

All I know is that I wake up every morning wishing that you were with me; and I fall asleep every night wishing I were in your arms. I smile every time I see your name pop up on my phone. And now I’m counting the days till I move to your city so that we can be together every day.

I don’t know what the future has in store for us, but I know that I will face whatever it is with a brave face and ready for anything attitude as long as I know that you will be beside me. In the short amount of time that we have known each other you have changed my life in so many ways. You have shown me that I can not only love again, but that I can trust again. You make me believe in Love again. You make me believe in the fairy tale of soulmates again. For that alone, I am forever grateful.

So, thank you for everything you have done, and will do. You are an incredible man, father, and friend. I am beyond blessed to have you in my life and all I can hope for is that you will be in my life for many years to come. I feel as if our story is just getting started and I can’t wait to see where it will lead us next.