Are all the good men gone?

Television shows are designed to suck you in, that is, if they are designed well. Writers, directors, and actors all come together to form a television show so that everyone can take time out of their day and live vicariously through a fictional world.

The great shows are the ones where you become boarder line obsessed with the show and its characters, same goes for reading books. Both are a way to escape from your reality, even if it is only a short thirty minute TV show, or a however long it takes you to read the book.

People like me, well we become fully immersed in the stories and plots; we familiarize ourselves with the characters. We remember the characters fictional birthday, or where they fall in love with their perfect significant other. For me, I like dramatic stories. I guess you could say dramatic romances.

I carry myself like a strong woman who doesn’t need a man to live a happy life, or anyone’s help for that matter. Yet, I like watching the shows where there is a damsel in distress, or where the man is the lead in the relationship. Now don’t get me wrong, I love it when there is a good, strong, female lead that can kick some ass, especially in movies. I usually leave the theater thinking that I could be like her. I feel like I am strong, independent, and able to kick some ass, but that feeling fades after a few minutes. I return to reality.

I know that what we see on the screen, or on the pages of a book, is just fictional; but for a short period of time I get to escape from the reality that is my life. Yet, I still find myself wanting that epic love and romance that the female leads get in the shows.

I want a man to be so in love with me that he can’t think straight. I want a man who sends me flowers just because and not because it’s a fictional holiday that was created by Hallmark, AKA Valentines Day. I want a man who takes me on spontaneous trips, even if it’s just a walk in the woods. I want a man who wants to tell his friends about this great girl that somehow fell in love with him. I want a man to think that he doesn’t deserve me, because then you know that he does. I want a man who doesn’t promise not to hurt me, but tries his hardest not to. I want a man that is there for me when I need to cry and helps pick up the pieces when I break. Hell, I want to be able to feel comfortable crying in front of him.

Yea, I know I sound crazy and pathetic but it’s the truth. Is it really that dramatic for me to want those things in life and in a man? Are there any men out there who still do things like that? Or are all the good men gone? And just like everything else extinct, are they gone forever? Do they really only exist in the history books of romance novels and dramatic TV shows and movies?